I attended a fabulous event in Los Angeles for women called the Women with a Purpose conference. It was put together by the lovely and extraordinarily entertaining women from winewomenandchocolate.com. Obviously, anyone with a website like that would have to be fun. The conference was an all-day affair that took place at the Sportsman’s Lodge in Studio City. During the entire day, we all working on living our purpose.
I came expecting to have a great time but found that the event exceeded my expectations. To be truthful, I hadn’t actually read the agenda before I arrived. Part of better living our purpose is overcoming fear.
Fear is paralyzing.
It’s so easy to become anxious about the smallest things. We constantly compare ourselves to others, lack confidence, become isolated, seek perfection before taking action, blame people, procrastinate and make all sorts of excuses. All of these behaviors are fear based.
By the end of the day, I felt fearless. Well, at least temporarily. After hearing all the amazing speakers they had lined up it was hard not to.
First up was Rhonda Britten
Rhonda was one of the stars of the now defunct reality show “Starting Over. She’s the founder of The Fearless Living Institute and is a life coach. Normally, when I hear the word “life coach” I find myself saying, “Yeah, right.” There are so many people out there calling themselves “life coaches” and most of them are neurotic or broke. Rhonda is the real deal.
When Rhonda was 14 years old, her family was preparing to go to a brunch. They barely ever went out to eat. She was in a room with her mother while her sisters were arguing elsewhere. Her father came into the room and pulled out a gun. In a fit of rage, he shot her mother in front of her and turned the gun on Rhonda. When her bleeding mother pleaded to her dad “Please don’t,” he realized his wife was still alive, shot her dead and then killed himself. Rhonda was the sole witness. After that she went through a period of 20 years abusing substances, sleeping around, and blaming herself until she finally realized she was the one who had to heal herself. She found a way and went on to become a successful TV personality, author, and coach.
Rhonda’s quotes on fear
(Please forgive me if they are not letter-perfect – I was writing fast)
“Fear is subtle and invisible. It uses everything we know.”
“Fear is handed down generationally through our DNA in addition to our own fears.”
“Fear is walking in an illusion.”
On finding your purpose:
“If you are not on fire about something, it’s fear.”
“Don’t wait for perfection to start your passion and purpose.”
Marianne Williamson – Keynote speaker – Women with a Purpose
Marianne Williamson OMG! She floored us with her keynote. Marianne is an internationally acclaimed spiritual thought leader, author, and lecturer. In 2006, she was referred to as one of the Top 50 Baby Boomer Influencers by Newsweek magazine. Marianne is the author of 10 books including four New York Times bestsellers. One, “Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of a “Course in Miracles” includes the amazing paragraph below that is often miss-attributed to Nelson Mandela. It was, in fact, written by Marianne Williamson.
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves; who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. You’re playing small does not serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. As as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Other quotes from Marianne: (You had to have been there)
- “You are serving your purpose when it’s something bigger than you.”
- “There is a role for each of us to play that is only meant for you.”
- “Whoever is in front of you is God in drag.”
- “The Universe is self-organizing and self-correcting.”
- “The Universe is an endless creativity machine. Realize you are no big deal. It’s freedom.”
- “The way to be powerful on Earth is to know you are not of this earth.”
- “You will be told everything you need to do. Do what you feel prayerful to do and don’t do what you do not feel prayerful.”
- “You achieve little without disciplined thought.”
Can it Get Any Better Than That?
Actually, it did. In addition to Rhonda and Marianne, we were entertained after lunch by Dougall Fraser, self-proclaimed Queer Guy with a 3rd Eye. He is a gay psychic who can read a person by seeing the colors of their aura.
Interestingly, he doesn’t tell you what’s going to happen to you in the future. He says that’s not what being psychic is all about. He can see by your energy how you’re dealing with the world and will let you know what you can do to have a better outcome.
Dougall is the author of the book “But You Already Knew That: What a Psychic Can Teach You about Life” and believes that every single one of us has the ability to tap into our intuition. His book explains how.
Cathey Painter is the founder of The Ageless Beauty Report. She is a former producer with E Entertainment. Cathey has put together a very comprehensive website on everything anti-aging. She’s adamant about using organic products and does extensive research to let her readers know the best cosmetics and supplements to take. She also offers excellent health and wellness tips.
Cat-Curry-Williams was our hostess with the mostest. She’s the founder of Shane’s Inspiration, a charity organization that helps build playgrounds throughout the world for children with disabilities. It was inspired by the death of her son Shane, as an infant, who was born with spinal muscular atrophy. Cat is also the author of the hilarious pocketbook that every one of us Baby Boomer women needs, “Yes You Can Use Your Hormones as an Excuse.” She’s founder and editor in chief of WineWomenandChocolate.com.
The final presentation of the day was a hilarious performance by Marilyn Kentz and the Boomerettes. Marilyn is a comedian, author, TV star, speaker and Fearless Woman. She’s a contributing author to “Fearless Women: Midlife Portraits,” “Not Your Mother’s Midlife,” and “Mother Load – When Life’s on Spin Cycle and You Just Can’t Get the Lid Up” On stage, Marilyn tackled everything midlife including chin hairs and Bingo wings. I almost wet my pants, a subject she actually didn’t tackle.
Quote by Marilyn Kentz
“In LA, middle age spread is a cougar with her legs apart.”
On being told she has dry eyes:
“Oh really! Another dry thing?”
Watch this video “Will I Ever Wear a Bikini Again” and make sure to wear a panty liner.
The idea of living our purpose is much easier to comprehend when we get to listen to so many inspiring individuals. The entire day was just what I needed at that moment.
Who inspires you? Please leave a comment below.