Have you ever asked yourself – Who are you really? It’s a mysterious question because most of us have no idea who were truly are.
I spent last weekend at a blogging conference in Temecula, California. 150 bloggers from the Southern California area and several from surrounding states attended to learn and network. It was a one-day conference that took place about 2 hours from where I live.
I was originally going to go by myself, but because I sprained my foot, and needed help moving about, I enlisted Doug to come along. We decided to make a fun weekend out of it. Temecula’s become a distinguished wine region in Southern California. It happened that on the weekend we were there, the town was hosting a huge wine tasting and hot air balloon festival.
I spent all day Saturday at the conference and Doug went up in a hot balloon. Wheeee!
My greatest takeaway from the conference came from one of our speakers Nia Peeples. She’s an actress best known for her part as “Nicole” in the TV series “Fame.” Nia talked about the process she’s been going through to re-brand herself. Throughout her acting career, she’d been branded by movie studios and agencies the way they had perceived her. As she grew older and the dynamics of her career changed, she found she had to ask herself. . .
. . . Who are you really?
It took years and several coaching sessions before she had an inkling of her true essence. Nia’s recently created a new website called “Beautiful by Nia,” a holistic & sustainable approach to beauty, body and being, that’s still in the works.
This made me think . . .
“Who am I really?”
As women, we spend so much time pleasing and taking care of others that it’s easy to lose our sense of self. Our lives evolve in response to what’s happened to us in our lives and we bend and mold ourselves to adjust to our situation. Suddenly, we become a person we don’t entirely recognize.
We have to ask ourselves, “When am I truly the happiest? What makes me feel elated and satisfied?
When I think about my own blog, I sometimes wonder if I’ve been writing what I think others want to hear rather than expressing my own opinions and perspectives. Am I pimping myself out to garner the attention of companies that may want to pay me instead of holding true to my personal philosophies? It’s a complicated and ever-evolving process.
When I first started blogging on Baby Boomster, it took me awhile to find my groove and speak from my heart. In fact, I’m still working on it. I’ve gone back to re-visit my old posts and wondered what I must have been thinking when I originally wrote them. I’m in the process of re-working and updating them so they’ll be more consistent with my overall message.
But isn’t that what life is all about? It’s a series of changes, re-inventions, and evolvement?
Each of us is a “brand” that makes us unique from everyone else. If you allow your true self to be revealed, those who resonate with you will eventually show up to cheer you on. They always do. The trick is to find a way to unmask that hidden self because it’s been smothered under layers of life experiences and traumas.
I sometimes feel I should have named my website differently. Instead of Baby Boomster, I could have called it “The Zany World of Bec”, or something more personal to me. I’m still fleshing that out. Re-branding my website would be a major undertaking and I probably won’t do it because there would be so many technical bits and pieces to sort out.
Have you ever thought that your “real YOU” has been locked away and is waiting to come to the surface?
Do you feel you’re living as your own incomparable YOU? Or have you been molding yourself to be the perfect wife, mother, business owner, girlfriend, pal, or role model to fit in and please those around you? It’s worth a thought or two.
Take a little time for yourself and write down details of who you think you are compared to how others perceive you. You may be surprised to find your true self is lying dormant and struggling to reveal itself. Take everyone else out of the equation for a moment and focus on the real YOU. Do you like yourself? Are you happy? What do you need to change to be more true to yourself? I will guarantee it will be enlightening. Let me know what you come up with.
There’s always a person, usually on Facebook, who comes across as the happiest person on earth. They have a perfect life, perfect kids, a perfect relationship but are secretly depressed. There’s a wacky person inside them screaming to be recognized. They’ve spent all their time working to make everything around them perfect and lost themselves in the process.
I know I have a lot of thinking to do on who I really am. Who are YOU really? Please leave a comment below and share your thoughts.