To say that 2019 wasn’t a difficult year would be a flat-out lie. It was a bitch in many ways but also had successes. You can have the best goals and dreams and then life hands you a challenge that throws it all out the window. Rather than get depressed, you work through it. It’s called having survival skills. I’m looking forward to the new decade.
I’m done with resolutions
Resolutions kind of suck. We make them and never keep them. Setting small workable goals is much more do-able. They give you a feeling of success and you don’t feel guilty if you miss a few. I’ve never been a great planner. I’m more of a fly by the seat of my pants kind of person. It must be the Sagittarius in me. I just do stuff and get it done.
My diet goals went bust
I worked hard on keeping track of my weight and what I ate thanks to Noom. It’s a great app but I’m a foodie who’s guilty of having snack attacks. My failure was my own fault.
I also tried out a detox program at the beginning of the year. It wasn’t for me but was an interesting experiment. I lost about 10 lbs doing both programs and then gained 5 back. A little progress is better than nothing, I guess.
I know that for me, it’s important to write down what I consume and weigh myself often. When I don’t, I slide. I’m not worried about what I eat because I’m into healthy food but I’m not into deprivation.
When I can sit and eat chicken and corn-on-the-cob with a 105-year old with all his facilities while sipping a glass of Sangria I’m not tempted to go full-out vegan, gluten-free, etc., like many of my friends here in California. I want to enjoy a meal and not stress out that it will kill me.
Part of the reason my year was difficult was because I’ve been in caregiver hell
As a woman, it’s hard to get through life without having to take care of someone whether it’s a child, a parent or a significant other. This year my calendar has been full of doctor appointments, scans, treatments, and ER visits for my BF who has stage 4 pancreatic cancer.
He now shares his disease with Alex Trebek and Rep. John Lewis but any form of cancer sucks. Please send all you know with cancer healing light.
But even though the year has been difficult he’s made it through a year and ½ and is still hanging in there. That’s quite an accomplishment for that type of cancer.
The whole experience has put my life on hold in a big way. We can’t travel because almost every week is a chemo treatment followed by side-effects like sleepiness, nausea, or some type of pain. I’ve had to say no to several travel opportunities because I’m tasked with giving him and my dog 2 shots a day.
Then there’s the fear of what the future will bring
Caring for a sick person means planning for the inevitable. That includes getting paperwork in order, saving up for a future move, wondering what to do with all his stuff, transferring the title of his car after he wrecked mine, figuring out how to deal with emergencies as they come up, etc.
One thing I know is that when you’re in that position, and I’ve been there before, what’s paramount is to take care of your own health. I’ve been blessed to be healthy but as I get older, I know it’s important to stay on top of both my physical and mental wellbeing. A “me” day once in a while is always a welcome delight.
Good things happened in 2019
My blog traffic has quadrupled in the last year thanks in part to various contributors who have written some viral posts. The one about Mah Jongg was insane! Who knew? Thank you to my talented writers. That made last year a little less difficult.
A few other contributions were just so-so, and I had to go in and give them some TLC, but I’ve never been stuck for good ideas.
None of this would have happened without loyal readers like you! BIG BIG Thank you!
Thanks also to several brands that sponsored me throughout the year. My income has increased although I’m not rich yet. As long as I can get by comfortably and have fun, I’m happy. Persistence and consistency pay off big time.
I love what I do even though my daughter would love me to get a REAL job. At 66 I don’t think so dear.
My goals for the new decade are to leave this difficult year behind me and persist
I want to find a way to travel but if that isn’t possible for a while, I can always have fun in Los Angeles which has plenty to do and see. I’ll keep working hard and will lose more damn weight without having to starve. I’m sick of feeling chubby.
Oh, and I’m and praying for sanity to be restored in the world. I don’t like living in the Twilight Zone.
How about you? Did you have a difficult year or an easy one? Are you looking forward to an awesome new decade? Please leave a comment below.